Biological Anthropologist Helen Fisher gives 5 tips for dating in the digital age for CNN.
Number three stood out to me, specifically this line, “You have to give the brain a chance.”
“For 12 years, Fisher has conducted the Singles in America study, a survey based on the attitudes and behaviors taken from a demographically representative sample of 5,000 US singles between the ages of 18 to 98, funded by Match. It contains the question: Have you ever met somebody whom you initially did not find attractive and eventually fell in love with?
“Every year it’s gone up. This past year, 49% said, ‘Yes.’ They had originally started out going out with somebody they did not find attractive and eventually … fell madly in love with them,” she said. “You have to give the brain a chance.”
Everyone say it with me, chemistry isn’t instantaneous! The more you get to know someone, you realize your values align. You see what excites them, what they are passionate about, the chemistry starts to build and you are suddenly drawn to them. Attractiveness is NOT an indicator of how they will be as a partner.
Once you have an understanding of your values and what questions to ask, you’ll be able to navigate the apps and dating with ease. Not sure what your values are, schedule some time with me to discuss further.
